Gather as much financial information as possible, especially those tax returns. It's a "key forensic tool," Romito says, and may be the only way you learn about a possible hidden bank account.
Establish credit solely in your name. And do it while you're still married. Most financial institutions still look at household income and assets.
Review expenses and make yourself a divorce budget. What does your future look like? Do you have enough money? How long will it last you?
Forget about getting even. It will only cost you more. Focus more on educating yourself. And don’t think about what your friends got. Each situation is different.
Review settlement options with these factors in mind.
Realize that you will need to adjust your lifestyle. It simply costs more to run two households.
When you look on paper, keep in mind that not all assets are equal, even at the same amount. Get the house and you have taxes and expenses. Get the retirement fund and chances are good it will grow and make you money.